Addiction to perfectionism - Escaping the pain


I am lucky enough to travel the world, working with clients all over the globe. Because of this, I’m constantly in unfamiliar environments–having conversations with strangers, booking into different hotels, ordering food in a variety of languages, asking for directions or simply getting to know the locals in each new place I go. I adapt to new climates, new cultures and diet regularly, turning towards the unknown of each place with curiosity. I let the magic of reality unfold, trusting and flowing with each new moment, each new place and each new person I met. 

Past me would never have let herself respond to the world like this. She wouldn’t have travelled to new places, wouldn’t have eaten unfamiliar foods or talked to strangers. What if I say something wrong and appear stupid? What if I get on that plane and things don’t happen how I expect? What if I can’t eat the food that will keep my weight down? What if they discover something is wrong with me? What if I discover something is wrong with me? 

I, Laura Mason, was addicted to perfectionism. I had to look perfect, speak perfect, be perfect to function. Internally there was so much criticism happening, so many negative thoughts and so much self-judgment taking place. I can see now that I used perfectionism as a way to disconnect from those negative feelings and thoughts. It was a way to compensate from feeling flawed and distract from the harshness that filled my mind. I had developed a false perception of myself based on the emotional and physical abuse I experienced when young and the energy that had been directed towards me. On some level, I took this to mean I was broken to my very core. 

Addiction is closely linked to childhood trauma. In reality, the trauma may have happened many years ago but the energy associated with it is still alive within the body and subconscious mind. As children, we aren’t able to distinguish healthy and unhealthy behaviour and we develop mechanisms of response based on those around us because it feels familiar and safe to do so. When we’re in abusive environments, we can learn to perpetuate that abuse onto ourselves.

 The result of this was meant I was a prisoner in my own mind and needed to be in control of everything external of me so to function. I was unhappy and in an increasing amount of pain. I tried to control how people perceived me, my environments and how reality unfolded. I associated any external negative perception of me, as being attacked or hurt in some way. Unpredictable circumstances would overwhelm me, so perfectionism became a coping strategy for survival. 

Most people believe addiction is limited to alcohol, food, drugs and cigarettes, but it can take a variety of forms. It can include being critical of yourself and others, judging yourself and others, making yourself wrong, drama, pain, need to work everything out, needing to be right, eating disorders, exercising, excessive spending, struggle and illness. The substance or the behaviours are not of great relevance. The important thing to look at, to break free from addictive behaviours, is what's underlying it

Throughout the previous twelve years, I have completely healed my addiction to perfectionism. Through the methods I now practise and deliver in my webinars and workshops, I discovered the truth of who I was. I do not even have the words to describe the great freedom this has brought me. My life is so different now; I no longer own other peoples projections of me, I have released control and as a result, magic and miracles have manifested into my life daily.

Addictive behaviours are not about pleasure. Addictive behaviours are closely linked with trauma and are unconsciously used as a way to avoid the pain associated. Painful feelings, low self-worth and self-blame are our way of trying to regulate emotional states. When emotions feel too big we often turn to the behaviour as a way to temporarily disconnect and pain relief. Learning to regulate emotional states are a really important part of overcoming addictive behaviours, and this is something that will address and transform during my next online.

‘Breaking Free From Addictive Behaviours,’ is an online course that will run between the 18th-20th September. The focus of this webinar is to explore the addiction to different behaviours including Perfectionism. You will learn how to change the mechanism of addiction. Eradicate trauma symptoms. Begin healing and stabilising the physical body. Change the relationships to your emotions. Develop a restored trust in yourself. Feel an increased sense of freedom, purpose and vitality. Let go of the past limitations and open to a new abundant and fulfilling future. Embrace self-love and welcome healthy, nurturing relationships into your life. Join me on this transformational webinar, where I will share with you the unique processes I have developed over 12 years of eradicating addiction for myself and now, my clients who I work with globally.

This technique works on a quantum level to create lasting change in the mind, body and soul, shifting addictive behaviour for good. You can find out more here







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