The key to protecting your energy is establishing clear physical, emotional, energetic and financial boundaries. Without them, our needs, wants and desires are often neglected, leaving us feeling drained, empty and exhausted. We are surrounded by negativity and stress at every turn. These factors can hold a heavy burden over us - leaving us feeling insecure in unhealthy relationships where we are often taken advantage of. This is especially true for the highly-sensitive person who can benefit from a shield to protect them. Let’s dive deeper into why boundaries are so important - and how we can start setting them.
THE INS + OUTS OF BOUNDARIES
When the word ‘boundaries’ comes to mind, the first thing we consider are two parties who have their own unique desires, wants and needs. But the truth is, boundaries are an invisible line that protects us from others, especially when we feel that push-pull to say ‘NO!’ When we set aside our boundaries, low self-esteem is often to blame. Even though we feel weak and powerless when our needs are being disrespected, our low self-esteem or self-worth makes it nearly impossible to find our voice that enables healthy change. This lack of control often stems from the core wounds, traumas and belief systems that we have developed in our formative years of childhood. These beliefs follow us throughout our entire lives until we find the strength to stand up and start healing these patterns that keep us stuck in this perpetual loop.
HOW TO INTRODUCE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
Establishing boundaries is a process that takes time, effort and patience - the most important step is the first one you take. Here are some helpful ideas to step into your power and create a healthy boundary-filled life.
When we stop giving narcissistic parental wounds the power to control our lives, this is when we can really start to break free from the shackles of the past. These wounds can wreak havoc on all areas of our lives, ruining relationships, impacting our success and terrorizing our self-concept or self-esteem. When we confront our history of trauma and let it go, we are no longer letting what’s happened to us define us. While we can’t control other people, we can control how we react - and that starts right here, right now.
Not to mention, understanding our past, identifying the wounds that hinder us and starting the healing process teaches us loving-kindness and self-compassion. This is the beginning of a life-long journey to knowing oneself - a process that aids us with connecting with our needs and wants that will continue to strengthen and reinforce those boundaries for the rest of our lives.
As a healer, my ultimate goal is to give my clients the key to unlock their ultimate balanced life. I’ve turned my experiences into a powerful tool to help others understand what is hindering them while turning it into strength and power. These cycles of trauma and abuse have impacted us for far too long and we often find ourselves burying or avoiding coping with them in fear of digging up deep pain and discomfort. The truth is, healing does not have to be painful. In fact, these shifts can promote a breakthrough beyond your wildest imagination.
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